Reblog Wednesday: In Defense of Stay-At-Home Moms — Autism in Our Nest

As a stay at home mom whom didn’t stay home from the beginning, I must say the transition was rather smooth. I loved my position in the corporate world, but once I had my oldest, my heart yearned to be with her and raise her myself.

I came across this post from Autism Family Power where she mentions coming across an article where a working woman asks, “what do stay at home moms do all day?” The question wasn’t ill intended, but rather out of curiosity.

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I chuckled a bit and then had the sudden urge to detail and justify my role at home. However, each of us has different reasons for our decision to stay at home, and the role of a parent that stays in the home is like no other. His/her role comes without a financial earning, without breaks, days off and too often are running on fumes.

However, the internal satisfaction of making sure my kids are taken care of, taking care of my families daily needs and each of my children’s individual needs be it school or otherwise, is beyond any pay check I could ever receive. The ‘tasks/jobs’ are endless, from scheduling doctors appointments, to making sure my son is thriving in school since his autism diagnosis, to potty training – still doing it. The list goes on and on. All the while praying I am doing a good enough job at raising good, compassionate citizens. Also, caring for myself as I have Chiari 1 Malformation – a congenital disorder.

So, if you’re a stay at home parent or not, our goals are all the same. We’re all caring for our homes and our families needs to the best of our abilities, being in the corporate world or not.

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Recently I read an article where a woman asked Stay-At-Home Moms what they did all day. At first I got defensive, but changed my mood. Read more about this, here!

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Reblog Wednesday: It’s Ok To Have A Bad Day — MakeItUltra™

I share with you today a post from Dr. Perry. It’s such a reassuring post, full of truth and honesty – a must read!

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As a stay at home mom, let alone mom, I too often feel the pressures of being the ‘perfect’ mom and meeting societies expectations of their definition of a mom. This is far too difficult and overwhelming. I can say that these thoughts are also due to judgmental parents, parents wanting to scrutinize other parents, while they themselves don’t have their [bleep] together. The stress that comes from these thoughts and the constant wanting to be ‘on top’ of everything and trying to go the ‘extra’ mile to try to make others perceive that I am that ‘perfect’ mother can be too much. It’s also close to impossible for me to physically do that because of the chronic pain that comes from living with Chiari + Syringomyelia. I do try remind myself to be easy, loving, and patient, but self motivation can be hard on days where optimism is nowhere in sight.

I believe in having a good laugh as well as having a good cry. In being present and acknowledging your emotions. It’s not being negative, it’s being honest. It’s also not going by what the world expects from you, it’s what you believe to be what’s right for you. It’s also not pushing your body to the point where it retaliates and begins shut down. In my opinion sadness is also needed to truly appreciate when we are happy. How would you know happiness if you haven’t felt sadness?! These sad days will also be some that won’t last for long. And as Dr. Perry pointed out, balance.

We need balance in our lives, everything in our lives are teaching moments, take those moments and learn from them.

Also, knowing what to take on and what not, knowing what things are best to let go, because somethings are just not worth the emotional turmoil.

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By Dr. Perry, PhD “Bad times have a scientific value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson I believe in maintaining a positive attitude in my life. But I also acknowledge that life is not perfect. It is impossible to live your life in an inexhaustible positive state of mind […]

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Happy Meme Monday: Parenting + The Hunger Games

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about parenting is not to judge someone else’s parenting –  speaking about toddlers especially. Have you heard the saying, ‘terrible twos’?! Yes, they were wrong, there’s the terrible twos, threes and fours. Maybe even beyond, but who am I to judge?!

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Have you been present when a mom – or dad, is clearly struggling with their child, you know, and then you see the parent trying to kneel down to the child’s level, whispering in the child’s ear, all in hopes the child listens, only to land on deaf ears?! I know the feeling. I’ve seen that, I’ve experienced that, and it all can be a bit brutal!

Here’s to supporting one another in parenthood in this task of raising our children and surviving the process.

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